Why do people send nude pictures?
It's important to know why. People send nudes because they think it's exciting and a normal part of dating. But it's important to understand that it's not okay to send nudes to someone who hasn't agreed to it. This could make them feel uncomfortable.
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Sometimes, people send nudes to trick someone into sending one back. This is a big problem and it's never the sender's fault, but knowing the signs is good. Before you send a nude back, ask yourself:
- How well do I know this person?
- Do I trust this person? Have we only talked online?
- Do I have a plan if the nude is used against me? Do I know where to get help?
If someone shares your nudes, it can feel awful and even scary, especially if someone is bothering you. Read our guide on what to do if your nudes have been shared to know your options.
If you ask for someone’s consent in real life
Nobody should be forced to engage in any sexual act simply because of pressure. Pressure regarding any issue you have no interest in will never be sweet! Once sending a nude feels awkward at all, it implies that you are not ready for it. Honestly tell him/her that you are not in. In case you said ‘no’ and he is still advancing, then you should start thinking about the relationship and consider seeking help from a person you have confidence in. On the other side of things, only send your hot pictures after confirming the other party agrees 100%. This implies an unreserved ‘yes’ from all participants. Don't forget, it's okay for either of you to change your mind at any time. Consent should be mutual and ongoing, and you should feel excited about it.
Before you share your nudes
have a conversation about what you both want so that there are no misunderstandings. Set your expectations about how the other person is supposed to use your nudes. Here are a few examples:-
- What are your plans with the nudes later on? Do you want to save them (if yes, where are they going to be stored?), delete them, or remove them from the cloud?
- Who can see these nudes? Are they kept only in memory for both of us? If it is possible to expose them to others, who exactly has access and who has not?
- What are you going to do about this after breaking up? Do we agree to still keep them even if we’re no longer an item, or do we want them completely erased?
Before you send something, try to discuss it first. If you want to talk but things are happening too fast, make sure this chat is held as soon as possible right after. It might seem uncomfortable at times to be alive to this, but it’s crucial for us all. Please note that one can withdraw their consent whenever they feel like it; hence, trust remains everything at the end of it all.
Be prepared Perhaps
You should also discuss in what way exchanging expected photos will happen.e Safe Ways to Share Your Nudes There isn’t one best way, though some platforms are more secure." But all these ideas depend on whether one trusts his/her partner. Not even one application offers a safeguard against screenshots (or physically photographing screen, his seems a bit archaic) hence there is no way of predicting where your expected photos will land."
Confirm It's legality
It is illegal if you or the person you exchanged nude photos or videos with is under 18. Forcing anyone to send nudes is a criminal offence regardless of how old you are. Visit LawStuff for further information on the legislation in your area/ state.
Do not share another person's nude photos unless you have their permission. When sharing someone else’s nudes, it must be a mutual agreement between the two of you where each one knows whom you are sending them to and how they are being sent. Similarly, sharing such content without permission constitutes a gross violation of trust as well as privacy which is punishable by law in almost all states/provinces across the world. Reflecting on what impact this might have on others Bring those out into the public domain.
Sharing people’s nudes can even lead to firings or public or physical hounding. If you happen to have shared someone’s nude photos and you don’t know what to do, go to eSafety to learn how you can reduce risks. Just delete a nude if somebody sends it to you and you feel it should not be meant for your eyes. If you are not sure, you can inform the sender that it’s not good to disclose other people’s personal images.
Your photos should be de-identified
Even though you may hear it in the news or from your parents, not all naked pictures get posted on the web. However, think about how you would feel if yours was? Once nudes have been uploaded, it becomes incredibly simple to download them as well as exchange them. It indicates that the photograph you had taken for your beloved could fall into any person’s possession in the end. To save yourself from future embarrassment, try to avoid including naked pictures of yourself that show your face or any other identifying features, like tattoos and birthmarks.
What should I do now?
- In case you are being victimized by nude sharing, you can find out what options are available for you to take.
- Read up on sexual consent and remember: if it’s virtual or real life, both two people need to give their approvals.
- One of the safest options is to delete the nudes if you don’t want to lose them forever. This may have prompted you to revise the nudes you already sent. In this case, reach the prompt of the recipients and ask them to delete your nudes.