Life is full of change, some anticipated, others completely unexpected. From the beginning of college to a new job, transitioning careers, having a baby, becoming an empty nester, retiring, and adjusting to life changes because of a significant other's or our own health issues, we know that change is part of the life equation. Good relocation plans can lighten emotionally the often chaotic process of moving and empower us to transition through life confidently and true to our values.
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What is a Personal Relocation Plan?
A personal transition plan is a structured approach to moving through life changes. It considers your goals and values, tending to outline how you take good care of yourself so that you will be there for others. It evaluates what the needs or tools may be and creates the space you need to expand and explore all options so that you can make the right decision for you at this point in life. It gives you a way to identify potential problems and come up with a plan to overcome them that is non-judgmental and non-critical. In other words, this is your road map for dealing successfully with the stress of transition.
What You Will Derive From a Personal Transition Plan
Mistiness, Focus, and More At-the-Moment Experience: A transition plan outlines and clarifies exactly what one wants to bring into their life and how one wants to do it in the face of all values. Setting clear goals based on what's important to you can help you stay focused and not overwhelmed. You will be able to be present with a clear mind, and able to make deliberate choices. This is also what gives us a clear, daily transition from work and school: what enables us to keep our focus and attention where it needs to be as we transition from one aspect of our lives to the next.
- Less Stress and Anxiety: Change, whether big or small and one-time or ongoing, is stressful. The planning of transitions, rationally and reasonably, may help to reduce the stresses brought on by change by acknowledging and accepting that it is happening. Knowing you have a plan can help to reduce your anxiety and give you a sense of control over the situation.
- Effective Management of Resources: Transitions in most cases call for time, money, and support from others. A personal transition plan helps you use all these resources effectively. It will help you take proper measures in advance, ensuring that you have all that you will need when you need it, thus allowing for a smooth transition with very minimal disruptions.
- Learn New Tools, and Establish Routines and Rituals: The transition plan teaches the new tools to maintain for coping with stress and can self-regulate your stress response so that you can respond—not react—to the situations of everyday life. Creation and maintenance of routines and rituals can become an important part of stress management in transition. They provide some of the best ways to help our bodies and minds understand and accept change for the better.
- Better Problem-Solving: A transition plan will help you anticipate any challenges that may happen and then design how to fix them. In that respect, you will be reducing the level of stress and ensuring that small challenges do not become major mountains in your life. By thinking ahead, you can design contingency plans that will carry you forward even when challenges come your way.
- Getting Results (without attachment to the outcome): Having a plan better positions you to get the outcome you want. However, transition planning does not mean perfectionism. If you place an emphasis on the process, effort, and intent of your transition plan more than being tied to an outcome, you are more likely to be in the here and now. It helps reduce our stress levels and gives us a chance to experience and celebrate wins along the way. This will help you to remain focused and motivated on the results you want to achieve—not on any obstacles that may confront you.
- Greater Confidence: With every step you take along your path, your belief in yourself to handle change and make improvements increases. That type of confidence carries over into all areas of your life, and you will attract new opportunities by handling them with a different attitude.
Create a Personal Relocation plan
Follow these steps to help you build an effective personal transition plan:
- Define Your Goals and Desired Outcomes: Clearly state what you want to achieve according to your values and what is important to you. It might be initiating a different career, adjusting at a different stage in your life, or finding a better balance between work and life so that you can be more present for those you care about—it all commences with an engaged exploration of what those goals and desired outcomes are.
- Check for Your Strengths and Resources, and What Could Work Against You Right Now: Be aware of your current situation. Identify your strengths and resources, and what may go against you.
- Break Down Your Plan Into Steps: Detach your transition plan into detailed steps. List what the attained or needed actions to be taken can be, what resources or tools are needed to do it, and then work through how the process might look for you and your family. You can step back and look at it from different angles, noticing any challenges that might pop up and reminding yourself it's a process—not perfection. All you have to do is just "take the next right step" regarding your values, goals, and objectives, and what is most important to you.
- Identify Resources: Consider what kind of resources you might need to plan your way through either a one-time successful transition or an ongoing one. These may be financial, and emotional support from friends and family, professional guidance in the form of mentors, or even carving out your environment in such a way that it supports the completion of your goals.
- Create Authentic Timelines and Goalposts for Your Transformation: regularly look at your progress to make changes if something doesn't work for you. Keep in mind that it is good to take an honest look at how things are going, but it is not helpful to judge your progress. Now, when you do fall out of the path, remind yourself why you did so, and urge yourself to "just take the next right step" to get back in.
- Think Ahead About Possible Challenges: These may then appear and create some sort of innovative solutions to defuse them. Sometimes, obstacles may turn out to be tutelary in revealing how to make use of them for our benefit in the future. Having some contingency plans in your back pocket can really help to keep everything on track when unexpected issues arise.
- Create a Safety Plan: Perhaps best known is the practice of establishing a safety plan in situations involving a life-threatening concern for personal safety, but its usefulness doesn't have to stop there. A safety plan can be something wise for us to give ourselves as a caring "backdoor" in times of stress. It means stepping back, or even to the side, so that we can further collect our thoughts regulate our mental systems, and have enough space with ourselves to figure out what the "next right step" is. To be shame-blaming of ourselves. It is an act of intention and empowerment, and not of some emotion that lets us make choices that are right in that moment.
- Track and Adjust: Periodically review your progress and allow for course correction as required. Allow room for flexibility and willingness to adapt your plan as circumstances change.
In other words, transition plans bring clarity, reduce stress, ensure efficient management of resources, enhance problem-solving, help in achieving the desired goals set for the community, increase presence for oneself and others, and improve self-confidence. By using transition planning that's intentional, mindful, and non-judgmental, you're going to reduce your stress and anxiety, freeing up more room for growth and success.
Yet, change is as natural as life itself. It's both uncomfortable and unsettling. Second, but only second, with a good transition plan in place; when you learn to meet these events with a values-based, present-moment mindset first, then you'll surmount whatever may come your way.